4/13/03

Dear Ed and Dana,

I have been seeing this man for 8 months now and we have an incrediable sexual relationship. However, we both love the idea of watching each other have sex with someone else. He has had some experience in swinging but I have none.
    I found us a couple who would love to share that experience with us. However there is this problem. I realize trust is a major factor with becoming a swinging couple. The fact is he has a girlfriend in which he has lived with for the past 5 years. We met one night at a bar and have been seeing each other since. She has no idea I exist.
    I really want to begin this adventure with him but I am afraid that if she ever finds out about me, he will stop seeing me. What advice can you give me before I make my final decision? I would greatly appreciate any comments you have to offer me.

Seeking advice,
want2Baswinger

Dear Want2B,

      As you seem to be aware, swinging is about sharing, openness, and trust. You may not have difficulty trusting someone who is being so deceitful to someone else, but the couples you party with aren’t likely to appreciate any dishonesty. Having said that, we must admit to being curious as to why swinging with this man would increase the likelihood that his girlfriend would find out about you.
    Most clubs allow (even encourage) attendance by single women. Perhaps you should check out the scene for yourself. You just might find a guy who is equally incredible in bed and is free to have an honest relationship with you and to swing with you too!

Regards,
Ed and Dana