8 February 2008

Dear Ed and Dana.

I have been reading your website and the two books you wrote on the subject.

I have been with my girlfriend for six years. It is my fantasy to see her engage with another couple (both man and woman). I note from your book saying over 80 percent of seasoned swinging women will engage in sexual activity with women from the other couple, while much less so for men.

The thought of seeing my girl being touched and pleased by another woman turns me on. I do not know how to encourage it. Does this come naturally with more swinging with other couples during the action? Do we need to disucss this with the other couple beforehand to see if both women will go into it in the presence of the men?

Will you share some of your experience about this with us?

Warmest regards,

KL

Dear KL,

As your girlfriend gets comfortable with swinging, she will most likely make friends with other women. Women have a way of communicating with other women to let them know what they like. Also, the men will talk among themselves, so you will most likely find out what their women enjoy. If your girlfriend is experimental she may want to try something with another woman. It often just happens by the simple touch of a breast or a soft kiss of the lips. One thing leads to another and it is a nice flow into that lifestyle.

Also, you can let her know that you are aroused by watching women together. You might view a movie with bi-sexual scenes and comment about how much it turns you on.

But don’t push it. Let things develop at their own speed. Remember, not all women like other women. So, let it be her choice and don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t work out the way you fantasized. As our books say, swinging is something you enjoy together.

Stay Playful,
Dana