Answers and Advice

Dear Reader,

If you have a question, we'll be happy to try and answer it, or help you find the answer. Before you write to us, please read Considering Swinging and Together Sex, and peruse the questions and answers on this site. We don't say this just because we want to sell books, but because we do not have the time to keep writing the same advice over and over.

If, after doing your homework, you still have questions, we will be happy to to apply our experience.

We do not charge for our time. But, perhaps someday we will gather all of the queries and responses into a book, so you should understand that by sending a question to us, you are granting us all rights to that question and our response. Of course, your identity will never be revealed.

Send your queries to: advice@theswinginglife.com

Playfully Yours,
Ed and Dana Allen

 

Responses to Visitors' Queries

 Beginning and Recruiting

• Maybe perfect - certainly complex [1/6/06]
• How to tell if a couple are swingers [11/8/03]
• Too open-minded about open marriage? [3/17/03]
Determining if a couple might swing. [3/7/02]
Inexperienced friends consider swinging together. [1/22/02]
• Introducing swinging to a spouse. [5/11/01]
Watching each other with another person. [5/5/01]

 Trepidation and Jealousy

Can abuse victim be happy in swinging [12/21/04]
Going beyond "Soft Swinging" [2/20/03]
• On intimacy and sharing [11/14/02]
Confused and fearful that husband wants to swing. [2/28/02]
• When one wants to stop swinging [2/27/02]
"Terrified" that husband wants sex with friends. [1/18/02]
Overcoming insecurity — will she be better? [1/4/02].

 Misc. Issues and Controversy

• Encouraging Female Bixexuality [2/13/08]
• Did swinging cause this divorce? [3/8/05]
• Compromising on incompatibility with another couple [4/16/03]
• Can a cheater be a swinger? [4/13/03]
• Overcoming libido loss together. [3/31/03]
• Husband prefers to watch. Trouble or not? [10/29/02]
Male bisexuality in swinging. [6/13/01]
Handling resistance to condom use. [12/24/01]


For answers to commonly asked questions such as those below, see the booklet
Considering Swinging

Q How can we be sure we’ll like swinging?
Q. How many swingers are there?
Q. What sort of people are we likely to meet in swinging?
Q. Aren't I putting my job at risk by swinging?
Q. What if I meet someone I know?
Q. What is the best way to get started?
Q. How should we choose a website for our personal ad?
Q. Will I be expected to wear a condom?
Q. Are most swingers bisexual?
Q. Why do swing clubs admit single people?
Q. Should I mix swinging friends with non-swinging ones?

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